Sweet Memories

Without realising we all create memories whether we know about it or not, happy memories, sad memories, memories that bring a smile to our face or sometimes bring upset and hurt. It’s these memories and collective thoughts that have sculpted us into the people we are today, the reason why we do things in a particular way and why we chose not to do something.
It’s amazing to think how advanced the human body is and that the brain is the nerve centre of what we do. Our actions, our thoughts, what we say right down to how we even move. It’s constantly sending signals and working even when we are not and when we are tucked up in bed at night sleeping. So it amazing to think even after years that pass, something we saw or something we did is stored in the back of our mind just waiting for the chance to be recalled and when the time comes it’s there punctual and on time. Now I know that can change with time and sometimes our minds are not like they used to be and we tend to forget, or do we? I don’t think we actually do I think we go blank for a moment, we’ve all had those moments but then when you least expect it, bang! there it is your thought or memory just like the day you created it.
For me, memories can come from a variety of many different sources like music, TV, sports, work and so many more day to day activities that we do.  You could be walking down the street and hear a song playing in the background and upon hearing it, it takes to straight back to the time in your life that you hadn’t even realised you had associated with that song. Even going out with friends and being social, there is nothing like reminiscing about old time and like that all those thoughts, images and memories that were saved in out memory banks come flooding back and at the same time we are instantly creating more.
As I have grown older I have knowingly associated either songs or numbers to particular times and events in my life. For example, if I see the number 786 anywhere on my daily travels it doesn’t matter in what way shape or form, to me I know that no matter what happens it’s going to be a good day, I can’t explain it I just know. Or if I hear a song on the radio it will take me back to the moment I first heard it and instantly I will in that place doing what I was doing and reliving the moment.
I can’t begin to explain how the brain works, I can make sense of most things but ill draw the line at the brain ill leave that to the experts. I think the point I’m trying to make or what I’m trying to say is we create memories every day of our lives, whether it’s something that you do on your own, with friends, family, colleagues or just someone that you met walking down the street. Having said that I’m a strong believer in ‘everything happens for a reason’ and like anything memories are created for a reason, so they can be shared with people, shared with the world and so we can bring happiness and laughter to others.
Just think of me writing this and whomever In the world who may read this we have created something together that will stay with us and no one can take that away from us.

 

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The One

About 7 years ago is when my life changed and I found the most inspirational and amazing women in my life. When you say ‘the one’, what does that actually mean? I guess for so many people as with everything in life it holds a different meaning depending on how you look at things.

For me, I can to this day and I probably will for the rest of my life remember the exact moment it dawned on me and I realised that I had actually found the one. Of all places I was in the middle of a workout in the gym with my friend. Now at the time my friend had noticed a change in me and had questioned if everything was ok with me, and like most guys probably not wanting to say anything would brush it off and say yes everything was fine. Now for most guys we have the stereotype of ‘being hard’ and not ‘being cool’ if you do something romantic or soppy and I was no exception, until the moment I approached my friend and actually said ‘I have found the one, she means everything to me’. My poor friend was in shock because he didn’t expect to hear that, let alone hear that from me and we were in the middle of a workout so it was completely random and out of the blue. Plus the look on his face was priceless, now that was a Kodak moment if ever there was one.

Now going back to what we mean when we say the one, in this day and age I suppose you could say its finding that one person that completes you, but it can mean so many different things and in so many different ways. There seems to be an underlying pressure in society that when you reach a certain age or reach a particular time in your life that you have to find love, find a girlfriend, get married or whatever it may be you choose to do. Whatever happened to taking your time or letting fate take its course. I suppose for me I look at it in this way from personal experience and id like to think that I’ve learnt from my mistakes.

I’ve come to learn over time that its never one way I found this out the hard way, lets just say I was a typical guy when I was younger and very stubborn but being young you can be oblivious to the fact that your in the wrong and in actual fact your doing more harm that good. But as I’ve grown older and wiser over the years, you could say that i’ve grown up and matured quicker than I’ve needed to because of experiences I have been through in life. You watch movies on the TV and you see examples of relationships and scenarios that couples find themselves in and in your mind you think what it would be like if that was you. What would you do? How would you handle the situation? Lets be honest I’m sure all of us at some point have been there, but what the Warner Bros and Hollywood and all the movie makers don’t tell you is that in reality it not like that at all. And one thing for certain is that its damn hard, definitely not easy to say the least and there are no instructions to help us through. You have to work at it, some have to work at it more than others but its worth it.

For me I’m very fortunate that I have my special lady in my life and by my side and I couldn’t be happier. Finding love changed me and changed me for the better, this is someone that I couldn’t imagine my life without. You hear people saying ‘I love you’ but its not just the physical side its so much more than that. Truth be told and lets be honest from time to time we all just want a cuddle or just want someone to take to. Its about being able be yourself in everyway even the crazy and wacky side of you and not have to worry what the other person is going to think. You tell each other everything and hold hands, show each other affection not caring what people may think. The only thing that matter is just the two of you and nothing else gets a look in. Now some might ask what if it doesn’t work out?, well the only thing I  can say is that like everything in life its a gamble. You have to put yourself on the line, not knowing where it will go. You have to invest your time and commit because like everything if you don’t you will never know what will be and always think what if. I honestly believe that in this world there is someone for everyone no matter what race, colour or creed.

We all have the ability to love and show compassion and you what we should embrace it more, you know why because life is short and we don’t know what around the corner and what is in store for us. We should live life to the full god knows I’m going to and share every moment. If your ever lucky enough to come across the right person for you or find the one, embrace it and grab life with both hands. It can be scary and mean some changes, take a chance and trust what your heart tells you and what do what is right for you. Don’t let it pass you by and wonder what if.

A little personal message for the amazing women in my life,

I will always remember the very first day I met you, your nervous smile and the way you shrugged your shoulder when you felt shy. We have come a long way from then and grown so much as a couple facing so many challenges that life has thrown at us. I remember when we got our first house and all we had was a sofa, dining table and few chairs. After years of hard work and sticking by each other we have achieved everything that we have ever wanted and more. You never seize to amaze me and always find a way to make me smile everyday. I love coming home every day knowing I will be welcomed with your warm embrace, this is something you cant put a  price on. We have shared 7 beautiful years together and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you standing by your side taking on the world. You truly are an inspiration and my superwomen.

I love you